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Friday, 9 November 2018

When is the time right?

Hello friends and followers.

How amazing it is, that we are into November and the weather is still incredibly mild. I do however wonder, if we will pay for this at some stage. My thought is, bring it on, because I am ready for whatever is thrown at me. Coal is bought, gas is full, plugged into the electric, water on tap and nice and snug onboard. I have never been one to worry about what the weather does. I will just take whatever comes and deal with it.

The title of my post 'When is the right time' is concerning Paddy our handsome Border Collie Paddy.
We have had Paddy since he was 11 months old. He came to us through The Border Collie Trust from a working farm and he has been an Angel on four legs. The people who had to let him go due to ill-health, sent a letter with him and at the bottom it said "Paddy does not have an evil bone in his body". That was true then and has always been true. He has never shown aggression towards anyone or anything. He has been the perfect boat dog.
His favourite position has always been horizontal. He even loved it when Marmite our tabby cat curled up in his coat.
Sadly with age, his health has been going down hill. He is coming up to his 15th year and we are getting to the point when we must make a difficult decision. Over the past year his back legs have been failing. He has been having some weird turns and getting him to eat has been a major issue of late. Over the past few weeks, we have been getting wet beds, which is either due to his back legs going or the funny turns he has. Next week we are taking him to the vets for his annual vaccination and a health check. We both feel that if Paddy is suffering, then we will make the decision, but we will of course speak to the vet and see what she suggests. My question was 'When is the time right'?
I have been through this difficult time once before when my Golden Retriever had Liver Cancer at four and half years of age. The vets were all for keeping him going on tablets, but he had no quality of life and for me that is what it is all about. If the animal has no quality of life then they should be allowed to go. I cannot see a pet in pain or miserable and of late Paddy has not looked happy. I fear that a decision is coming, but we will see what happens this week.
What would you do?
Have you ever had to make the decision?

Pop back soon xxx


  1. We have had to make this decision quite a few times and it isn't easy. One thing I would say is that although you need to speak to the vet, nobody knows your pet like you do. I think you know when the time has come and you just have to be brave.

  2. Hi Richard. Thank you for your message. You are so right, but it does not make it any easier. Tonight Paddy collapsed on the back counter having been out for his walk and he could not get up. He is alright at the moment, but the time to be brave is coming. Jo

  3. Thinking of at this difficult time. I'm sure you'll make the right decision when the time comes.
    Judith nb Serena

  4. I feel for you, it is the hardest thing for an owner to do but we do it for love and we know when its right as you will.

  5. Hi Judith. Thank you for your message. Having had Paddy since he was 11 months old, he has been a huge part of our boating life. We got him when we moved onto Misty Lady, so he has been with us since we started life afloat. xx

  6. Hi Nev. Thank you for your comment. He has given his love so unconditionally and our love for him will make us make the right decision. With us losing Marmite this year, it will be upsetting, to lose them both in one year is going to be hard.

  7. Been there, had to do it. You will know.
    Look at it this way, you've given Paddy many years of good life. Now give him a good end of life. And celebrate that by giving a good life to another rescue dog that deserves your kindness too.

  8. Hi nb Carmel. Thank you for your message. We will know more this coming week and will make the right decision and do what is best for our boy, who we love dearly. As for having another dog, we have decided that we will probably not have another dog. But one can never say never. I have always had animals in my life, so to be without one will be strange. Jo

  9. We have been through this a few times and its the hardest thing we have ever had to do. Our love and prayers go out to you and Paddy. We'll be thinking of you.

    When the time is right (and you will know when that is),
    please promise me the last thing he sees is you and Keith. Please be there when he arrives at the rainbow bridge and not walk away until he is at finally at rest. He will need you more than ever when it happens and your presence will re-assure him.

  10. Hi nb AmyJo.
    Thank you for your lovely message.
    Both Keith and I will be with Paddy to the end. We would never allow him to go alone. I want him to know he is loved and reassure him he can go over the rainbow bridge with our love and blessing. xx

  11. We have recently said goodbye to our much loved border terrier Scrappy-Doo ,it was the hardest thing ever but we new it was right for him ..we try and remember all the good times and all the love which he gave us. my heart goes out to you !!!!! Mike and linda

  12. Hi Mike and Linda.
    Thank you for your message. I am so very sorry to hear abut your Scrappy-Doo. We will know what to do once we have spoken to the vet. Today Pad has been better, but you can see in his eyes he is not happy. Our animals come into and out of our lives and fill our hearts with their love and in return we love them and do what is best for them when the time comes. xx

  13. Jo, I too feel your pain. We have had to make this decision a couple of times and it is the hardest thing to do, but it is the right one. We have a border collie - they are a breed apart. Ours is only six at present, but one day we will be where you are. Paddy has had a life full of love and you will do what is right and you will know when that time is. The 'funny turns' could be epilepsy? Our previous BC suffered with fits at the end of his life and they do cause incontinence. At least we all have a choice to give our pets a dignified end, which is more than we can do with mankind. Our thoughts are with you, Keith and Paddy. Jennie, nb Tentatrice

  14. Good morning Jennie.

    Thank you for your lovely message. You are right Border Collies are a breed apart and when Paddy's time comes it is going to break my heart. But we know we have given him the very best life and he has given us his love, giggles and cuddles. Over the past couple of years we have mentioned to the vet about these funny turns, where he will stand and shake from tail to nose, sometimes making him fall over and then he shakes his head and he is fine. There is no frothing at the mouth or anything like that. The vets have never been worried about it. Of late though they have gotten worse and he has them when he is lying down now and I think it is either those or his dodgy back legs which are his incontinence. You are so right when you say we can give our pets a dignified end and yet we get treated so badly when our time comes. May your darling Collie go on for many years to come. Hugs Jo.

  15. Duffy's 'fits' were never extreme and I think we sometimes did not see them - he would be out and about and suddenly appear from bushes looking confused. We did see one that was definitely a fit, but still no real frothing, but he did lose control of his bladder. Whatever happens you will make the right decision and will have so many happy memories to sustain you over the coming months/years. They just have so many funny ways that creep into one's heart and gets lodged there. Next time we come past Saltisford, if you are home, we will bring Monty to say hello. Jennie x

  16. Awwww poor Duffy. We see most of Paddy's. He can just be standing in the boat and he will go into a turn. After it is over he usually shakes his head and gets on with living. It is like he does not know what has happened. His bladder control started to go some 6 weeks ago, not every day then but now we are walking behind him clearing up :-(. It would be lovely to meet Monty, I look forward to that day. Sending you hugs xx


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